Reality of being a girl in Armenia
If you decided to have a date with Armenian girl in that country, must say it might be difficult and sometimes even dangerous. You are able to do it in a big city, but mostly never in a small town or village. And later you’ll understand why.
One of the common misconceptions of modern Armenian society is that Armenian men have sometimes differ respectful, gentlemanly attitude towards the Armenian women have exceptional skills and treatment of women. This myth is actively disseminate the men themselves, most of them at every opportunity and an awkward case of transparent hint, which is particularly adept at dealing with the female sex. The story of the Armenian men about how to properly care for the girl, how to seduce her and beautifully off, we can hear as often as caught in the rain in London.
However, Armenian women are not particularly sensitive to such myths into force of female realism, and not only. Women on their experience certified as mythical knowledge of the gentleman does not find its practical implementation, at least the majority of Armenian women have not seen this.
Instead, the beautiful half of the population of Armenia has to pretty try to cater to the above gentlemen of Armenian origin. We are talking about premarital virginity as a cultural code of modern Armenia, and no matter the bride is of 19 years, 25 or 30 – the bride before the wedding should keep her maiden innocence. The fact that a woman, I’m sorry, too, man and she, oh, horror, sex can happen, can not speak. All are welcome to the ranks of “dishonorable girls.”
The theme of “red apple” in Armenia excites the minds of the entire population. On the one hand, gynecologists are tired of harping on the harms that brings to women’s health neglect of sexual life. And indeed seems to be the wrong times now. On the other- mama and girlfriend, both – boys and girls in one voice say that without virginity the most beautiful and intelligent girl is not good for marriage. In Armenia, there is no more rule for choosing a marriage partner of the binding parents, but parents need to ensure the absence of premarital sexual relationships in their daughters, and mother-in-law should confirm the presence of evidence of defloration after the wedding night. Of course, there are exceptions, inspired by the winds of change and the temptation of liberal values. They can often be seen in the capital, but any self-respecting inhabitant of a provincial town, not to mentioning the deaf villages, all solid shame on the whole family if he married not virgin.
Of course, nobody canceled the family values like honesty, home, etc., but who said that a woman does not fit into the conventional and, frankly,outdated stereotype of the public, apriori can not be worthy of your wife? At the same time the girl should be understandable, submissive, obedient, but she should not be smart, otherwise her husband would feel himself uncomfortable and stupid in front of his wife.
It is desirable for Armenian girl to get married till she is 25. And if she’s got married, it is normal if husband betray and has sexual relationships with other women. Women, by contrast, are limited in communication, mobility, ability to work outside the home. Their sex life is identified with the reproductive function and monitored at all stages of the life cycle.
Today, in order to understand life of modern Armenian woman and the difficulties she faces and what made progress, many Western organizations have made dozens of studies that are poorly reflect the true state of affairs. At the legislative level women’s rights in Armenia are protected well. However, Armenia is not for nothing is known for it’s liberal legislation, the other question is how these laws are implemented in practice.
In reality, gender inequality Armenian girls face while studying in universities as graduate taking mostly young men. As a result, the ratio of unemployed men and women is about 60 to 70, and this despite the fact that women in Armenia in terms of education are ahead of men. Armenian women earn almost half less than men, although mainly in the work ads desirable young unmarried girls are required.
Particularly painful problem for Armenian society in the context of gender inequality is selective abortion. Every self-respecting Armenian man dreams about a son who will continue the family name and, of course, race. The desire of the parents to have exactly son instead of a daughter, very often is the cause of selective abortion, so that is no coincidence in the number of selective abortions Armenia is among the three leading countries.
Despite the fact that the Armenian men are serious businessmen and so on, most of them go under the heel of their wives, completely without noticing. Tactic reminds of managed democracy with elements brought to the virtuosity of manipulation. Nothing in the house of the Armenian women do not get off the ground, unless you have the consent of wife or mother. Starting from the purchase of a dishwasher and ending with the political choice. And this is all external apolitical Armenian women. Externally, independent and self-sufficient Armenian man will not do anything without asking wife and especially his mother.
Instead of illustrious patriarchal Armenian family in front of us with the so-called hidden matriarchy by the wise Armenian women who, despite their indifferent political views, because of its features, define a conservative course of development of the Armenian state, which still side step the revolutionary wave.
But Armenian man will never admit it publicly. Alongwith his older relatives he will require innocence matured from 25-year-old bride and go to a restaurant in a purely male company, because good woman should stay at home.