First Date With Ukrainian Girl – Watch, Learn, Be Ready, Win!
It is not really always the matter when first date becomes kind of trampolin to the future relationship. It could be either good and rapid start or quickly understandable fail. Not your personal fail, not that the girl did something wrong, – it’s just when it is vividly seen that you don’t fit each other. It is more than okay, and if for some reason the first date in your opinion was not successful, it is reasonable to try more first dates with more Ukrainian girls and only then make some subjective conclusions; something which is the most important here – is not making stereotypes saying approximately this: “Well, Ukrainian girls are hard to talk with. The one I had a date with had terrible English. She refused my proposal to visit my place.”
Difference in understanding the first date term for Ukrainian women and foreign men makes the gap significant. Let’s firstly figure out what are the expectations on the both sides of barricades.
What the first date means for Ukrainian girl? This is the time when she evaluates her partner and attentively thinking over whether they have some possibility to become a pair in the future. She also perceieves this moment as unique and romantic. If everything goes well, she feels happy and romantic. She needs some time to be on her own after the first date, but if everything went right, she would expect for your step like text message or phone call. Ukrainian girls can’t stand ONS proposals and if man does something on the first date, he might forget about the girl forever. Maybe some of Ukrainian girls go for the first date with foreigner because they are just curious, but the vast majority expects successful first date to become ground start for promising life-long relationship.
What the first date with Ukrainian girl usually means for foreign guy? Not always, but very often Americans, Australians, Italians… you name – hope for exactly ONS date with Eastern European girl. And this is where the conflict of interest starts. Different aims will cause histerical incoherence and zero results and disappointed for both sides. So, before visiting Ukrainian girl on the first date you have clearly understand what are her plans for you, if all goes well: in most cases she expects to become life long partners with you in the future; yes, not right now, not in a month – but in the future; she wants to have a period of bouquettes and roses, chocolate and champagne – wooing; she wants you to show your attention, care and being adequate person; after dating for a couple of months there might be a possibility to share common appartment; if the test is passed by you well, you will be able to make her marriage proposal and hope for assured “Yes”.
If you know what Ukrainian girl expects from the first date, you are able to behave the way she expects and if her idea is coherent with your idea – when the successful first date is a good start for future relationship, you have a great chance for success.
Evaluation of personal man’s skills
The first date with beautiful girl may become kind of problem for somen men. Many of them have problems with communication when gorgeous model look girl asks the road, for example. And what if such embarassed, shy and non-confident man has to spend the date with such pretty girl. Are you one of those men? Ukrainian women are very pretty and if you have problems with communication in the company of pretty girl, spending few hours of date with Ukrainian woman might became a kind of torture for you.
What to do? Learn, study, practice, improve. You got to improve your personal communication skills. If you are bad driver nothing would help you, but practicing – driving more and more hours on regular basis. The same here – the more you communicate with pretty girls, the less fear you are going to have and the more confident you are going to become. Ukrainian girl and first date with her is good life tutorial in this case. You may use this chance either for possibility of future successful relationship or for practicing your communication skills or both.
Words mean a lot
Ukrainian women are good interlocutors. Good means they not only are able to talk on different topics, to discuss modern art and today’s raw vege breakfast, but they know how to listen. Concsiously and sub concsiously Ukrainian woman evaluates you on the first date. Every woman likes compliments, even if there is too much compliments, so Ukrainian woman is not an exception. But except for words she evaluates your gestures, the way you talk, move, look at her. Ukrainian women are good natural psychologists and they are street-smart as well, so it would be very hard to lie if you expected doing so. The same with your compliments – do not exxagerate, as it would make only worse. If you add to much sugar the tea would be impossible to drink – the same here: keep the balance with compliments, be tactful, use them appropriately and in terms of general culture and cultural behavior.
What to dress up in going for the first date with Ukrainian girl?
What you wear it depends on you, but it has significant influence on the first strong impression of Ukrainian woman towards you. I’ll explain. Ukrainain women take a lot of care about their own appearance. You probably have heard they wouldn’t go to the market without make up and hills – and there is a grain of truth. Think over this: if Ukrainian woman spends hours preparing for the first date with you, making manicure, make up, choosing dress, perfumes, etc – she expects you to be the same way resbonsible; it does not mean she wants you to make manicure and spend hours for choosing a suit, but she wants you to see neat and clean, such a nice kind of gentleman. Most of Ukrainian women do not understand foreigners who wear the same pair of jeans for months, wearing dirty pants with holes. They don’t accept foreign guys sitting on the floor in bus or train station. The things Westerners often call freedom, for Ukrainains appear to be lack of culture, lack of personal care and laziness. So, if you are one of those guys you don’t have much chance with Ukrainian woman or… she would try to persuade you to dress up “normally”.
Your best appearance during the first date with Ukrainian girk is – shirt and pants, or jeans. Nice clean shoes. Dress up the way you feel comfortable, but cleand, accurate and neat clothes is a must. Don’t wear suit if you hate suits and feel uncomfortable. Your nails should be short and cut nicely. If you have beard or moustache – it should look like you take care of it. If you shave – be shaven on the first date. Your haircut is up to you, but your hair should look nice and clean (If you are not bald, of course). Perfumes are ok, but the odor has to be nice and not very strong – just moderate. I guess, there is no need to remind you should take a shover before the date? Take into consideration, that Ukrainian girls are perfectly overwhelmed that foreign guys coming from different cultures dress up differently and often in a weird way – this is ok, but the main demand of Ukrainian women towards forigners on the date and in general is not being dirty, including clothes and body.
Ukrainian girls prefer confident men who either achieved or are in the process of achieving their goals in this life. Ukrainian girls perfectly know that if man is confident in everyday life, he is confident in business, in family life, in unexpected situations – he is ready to go for a challenge and win. First date is demonstration of your confidence. Although you’re not going to show how you hire new employees ofr your new office, you are going to take responsibility for your time together. Do not push, do not insist – but be initiative. What does it mean? Ask the girl what would she like to do, but at the same time give at least 4 options – let’s have a walk and you’ll tell me a little about the town; let’s have some coffee: by the way, do you prefer tear or coffee? Have you ever tired about yerba mate? What do you think about caffeine?. So called restaurant options: Are you hungry now? Maybe let’s eat something? What food you prefer? Do you eat fast-food sometimes? Spending time together options: Do you like cinema? What was the last movie you watchted on the wide screen? Have you ever been to 7D?; Do you skate? Let’s go to the skating rink? Which one you shave here?
If the girl makes her proposals about places to visit on the first date – don’t take it as personal insult or that it would be lack of you self-confidence. It is also normal that you show respect for her choice and accept it.
It is also good strategy to propose some things to do and then ask her what she thinks about this or what can she propose, as this is the city she lives in and she has to know it better. Then judge on her reaction – if she hesiates, doesn’t know what to say – take initiative into your hands and ask her where is the nearest cafe to have a tasty cheese cake. Take her hand (important subconcsious gesture which would show you lead her) and go to any direction. After 20 meters of walk you smile and ask her whether you are going into right direction. Option number two: if she is person with energetic choleric temperament, she would propose you tens of places to visit together and then you do the same – use “the hand thing” and follow her.
Here you have to be initiator as well. This is the same as in case with hand – where you provide. Your aim is mostly as her questions and listen to her attentively when she answers. It means you have to at least pretend you are listening everythins she says. Questions should show your real interest: ask her about her country,, her city, her family, points of view on nature, world, geography etc. Do not talk more than her. Actually, Ukrainian girls don’t like guys who talk a lot, or even if they like – they don’t take such a guy for serious, he might be funny friend, but not a partner. Ukrainian women believe actions are more important than words.
At the same time it does not mean you have to be silent and make only your woman talking. Your part of conversation shoud inform about your points of view, achievements, maybe business or plans. Ukrainian women like focused guys who are in action, who move towards the goal, who don’t just go with the flow. Yes, not money or social status are important to Ukrainian girl, but your ability to move forward, to fall and stand up, to climb, to run, to go to the goal. If you have achievements you would like to share – please, do this. The giirl will listen carefully and with interest. Everyone has such achievements, usually these are things you love doing every day or things that inspire you. Thisnk over yours.
Things to omit talking about when on the first date with Ukrainian girl:
- Your personal disadvantages, minuses, drawbacks, weak sides. Of course, everyone has them, but it is not a good idea to show them up and to emphasize. The girl on the first date should see you as the best man in the world she were looking for, and if everything goes good and in the future you will live together, she would notice your drawbacks – don’t hurry up.
- About sex. If you start this topic, she might think you are interested only in such kind of relations with her and the fact yo started this topic is your try to give her a hint. Since starting this topic, you are under the risk of quick end of the date, but what is more likely – this would be the first and the last date guaranteed.
- Do not gossip about others. This is very weak of a man to talk bad about others. Especially about people you know. Ukrainian girl knows, if you are talking bad about someone in front of her, you might talk bad about her in front of someone. Especially growse idea – to start talking about drawbacks of your ex.
- Do not talk about ex-girlfriend (s). The same about the reasons which lead to break up. This is the worst topic to talk about on the first date. Maybe the girl you are on th edate with went for the date because she wants to forget her ex, and reminding about your ex you reminded her about her ex.
- If you have some problems with health it is better to omit this topic on the first date as well. Why to spoil such a nice thing as first date with ilnesses? If it is something serious, it is better to tell about this a little later – on the second or on the third date. It is necessary to inform partner, because ot might ruin her plans for future life with you, but it would happen anyways – sooner or later. So, tell her about this later, just leave the first date for you.
Walking with her somewhere on the street in Ukraine on summer, buy flowers and present her. The more spontaneous it woul be – the better. If you leave her for 3 minutes under pretext of something else and come bach hiding flowers behind your back it would give you great start bonus, believe me! Do not underestimate flowers on the first date with Ukrainian girl!
Forget about smartphone
This is real problem of modern world when two young people on the date are staring in their smartphones instead of live communication. It seems people forgot how to communicate in real life. It is more comfortable for them to write each other messages and smiles virtually, sitting in front of each other. Do not be this type. Forget about your phone, messages and business. On the date you give your time only to your girl. If she notices ou are very busy man answering the calls all the time it would not show you as successful businessman, but as a man who would always be absent in the family, because the business is priority. Attention: First date is under the risk of becoming the last one.
Ending the first date
Walking a girl home after the first date, especially in the evening was a tradition in Ukrainian villages and towns for ages. Now this point is not always possible, especially if this is a big city date. Urban life style has made its own corrections. It os not always possible and reasonable to walk (drive) girl home. If you have a car it it ok when you drive her home, but if you are going to ride the same metro with her in Kyiv for one hour and then walk 15 minutes more and then do the same but in the opposite way – it is better to call her a cab and pay for it. Maybe she does not want you to know where she lives – open your eyes: it is just the first date finished, right? In general, ask her whether she wants you to walk her home and if she says “No”, propose her to call the cab. If she says “No”, you should still insist and do that.
Kiss on the first date
It is more movie thing. Judge on the situation, very often it is unsuitable. But if the atmosphere is very romantic and chemistry is playing its role greatly – why not? A kiss might be the beginning of more prolongued relationship.